Comparison
Self comparison, the need to determine our worth based on how we perceive others, is a thought process which undoubtedly we've all been through. Comparing and subsequently evaluating ourselves, can possibly result in unhealthy behaviors to rectify the way we view ourselves against others. Such evaluations can lead to overly competitive attitudes towards those we deem superior, internalizing ideologies that if we change specific behaviors, we could be like those we admire. However, such thoughts can snowball into consistent feelings of guilt and dissatisfaction in ourselves, with research showing strong links between body-related comparison and disordered eating. Constantly comparing our dissimilarities, with a potentially already distorted view of ourselves and our self worth, will only enlarge the frustration that we are not living up to the unwritten standards we've made for ourselves.
Comparison only becomes a hindrance when our motivation turns into obsessions as to why we're not performing as well as others appear to be. Unfortunately by the time we reach this point, our perceptions are already distorted and little effort is put into realising why our thoughts may be illogical. Although it's our subconscious aim to do well, we need to learn to value that internally, without the need to base it against others idealistic scales of reality. Comparison should be used for growth, not as an aid to diminish what we have and can have.
Although self comparison can become hard to avoid. We live in a society where openly advertising the highlights and completely ignoring the low points becomes effortless, with little need to even consider how such potentially destructive behaviors will affect those around us. We continually compare our behind the scenes with others edited lives, and wonder why we have so much trouble obtaining what others seem to have so easily. The unrealism of social media helps to trigger unpleasant urges to compare and instantaneously dissect all aspects of our lives, when in reality; were measuring two entirely different actualities of the same scale. When we exclusively emphasis the best version of ourselves, we diminish any sense of reality at all.
Comparison only becomes a hindrance when our motivation turns into obsessions as to why we're not performing as well as others appear to be. Unfortunately by the time we reach this point, our perceptions are already distorted and little effort is put into realising why our thoughts may be illogical. Although it's our subconscious aim to do well, we need to learn to value that internally, without the need to base it against others idealistic scales of reality. Comparison should be used for growth, not as an aid to diminish what we have and can have.
Although self comparison can become hard to avoid. We live in a society where openly advertising the highlights and completely ignoring the low points becomes effortless, with little need to even consider how such potentially destructive behaviors will affect those around us. We continually compare our behind the scenes with others edited lives, and wonder why we have so much trouble obtaining what others seem to have so easily. The unrealism of social media helps to trigger unpleasant urges to compare and instantaneously dissect all aspects of our lives, when in reality; were measuring two entirely different actualities of the same scale. When we exclusively emphasis the best version of ourselves, we diminish any sense of reality at all.
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