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Vulnerability

Vulnerability is often blocked by our sense of shame, in this instance, shame about the way we may be feeling, preventing us from opening up and talking to those we objectively trust. This fear tells us that being vulnerable is too painful, and scares us into further believing the lies we've created; that we cannot let go of the secrets we hold. It's at this point the distinction between the world we live in and the world others believe we live in becomes defined, and we begin to live two separate realities. The lack of need to be vulnerable enables us to erase what we wish to hide, and disguise the life we wouldn't want others to see. Learning to open up about our feelings, and let go of things we should have never learned to hold onto can be a vulnerable experience, that we outwardly avoid because of the shame attached to the stigma of opening up. However, this shouldn't be how we view the intimacy of talking about our pain. Vulnerability shouldn't be something we...
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Comparison

Self comparison, the need to determine our worth based on how we perceive others, is a thought process which undoubtedly we've all been through. Comparing and subsequently evaluating ourselves, can possibly result in unhealthy behaviors to rectify the way we view ourselves against others. Such evaluations can lead to overly competitive attitudes towards those we deem superior, internalizing ideologies that if we change specific behaviors, we could be like those we admire. However, such thoughts can snowball into consistent feelings of guilt and dissatisfaction in ourselves, with research showing strong links between body-related comparison and disordered eating. Constantly comparing our dissimilarities, with a potentially already distorted view of ourselves and our self worth, will only enlarge the frustration that we are not living up to the unwritten standards we've made for ourselves. Comparison only becomes a hindrance when our motivation turns into obsessions as to why w...
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Perfectionism

By definition, perfectionism is a personality trait characterized by setting high standards and the inability to settle for anything less than flawless. Accompany this need for perfect with constant self evaluation and critical analysis of multiple aspects of performance, and you end up with a crippling mentality, inevitably ending with unsustainable thoughts and stagnant behavior. Perfectionism leads to an endless and impossible cycle of redoing whatever it may be that you’re striving to be perfect, and ultimately failing because perfection is impossible to find. Over the duration of our life, we formulate our ambitions by admiring others, and aim to duplicate what we assume is perfection. Our ambitions are ignited by greatness, yet what we try to create ends up being what we would consider mediocrity. We ignore the journey it took to create the end product, and presume the outcome came with ease and little effort, and our inability to emulate such perfection is a downfall we cannot...
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